Helping our Grandkids Build Resilience

By: Joni Boyd

In the past, phrases like “toughen up” were common.

But Ian Barnett, representing the National Grandparent Movement, points out that there’s been a shift toward understanding resilience as a mindset rather than a form of toughness. 

Today’s youth face unique challenges, especially in a digital world.

Instead of toughening up our grandkids, grandparents can foster resilience by teaching them how to cope with setbacks and failure in a supportive environment.

“Let them fall over; give them a minute before you jump in,” Ian said, giving an example of teaching them to cope with setbacks.

While it’s essential to reassure grandchildren of their worth no matter the outcome, Ian says it’s also crucial that they learn from their mistakes.

This balance of support and allowing room for failure equips kids to handle life’s challenges with greater strength and perseverance.

When inclusivity and affirmation are prioritised, we may want to shield our grandkids from any discomfort.

But according to Ian, facing small challenges early on prepares them for bigger ones in the future. 

“Encourage them if they win; encourage them if they fail,” he said.

Grandparents have a unique opportunity to guide the younger generation through these evolving challenges.

Grandparents who embrace their role as “a role model” and decide to be there for their grandchildren, regardless of the outcome make all the difference.

By listening and engaging in meaningful conversations, grandparents are helping them build both emotional and mental resilience.