Grandparenting From a Distance: 3 Tips

By: Joni Boyd

Families can find themselves scattered across vast distances.

Whether you’re separated by suburbs, states, or even countries, maintaining a strong relationship with your grandchildren can seem challenging. 

However, Ian Barnett of the National Grandparent Movement discusses three ways grandparents can keep their bonds strong, despite the geographical divide.

The “tyranny of distance” is one of the top challenges facing modern grandparents, Ian believes.

Gone are the days when families lived in close-knit communities, and now, many grandparents find themselves far away from their grandkids. 

“Some people grow up thinking, ‘Our kids will buy in the same area,’ but it doesn’t happen that way anymore,” he said.

This shift can create both physical and emotional distance, but according to Ian and Ben, with the right mindset and tools, it doesn’t have to cause disconnection.

1. Budget for bonding

One of the most important steps for maintaining relationships across distance is planning ahead.

“Start setting aside some resources to make it happen,” Ian said, emphasising that budgeting for travel allows grandparents to be present during key moments in their grandchildren’s lives. 

Whether it’s birthdays, graduations, or performances, making time for these special events strengthens the bond and shows your grandkids just how much they mean.

2. Use technology well

While seeing each other in person is ideal, technology can also play a big role in staying connected.

Video calls on platforms like FaceTime or Zoom offer a way to keep in touch regularly. 

According to Ian, families have embraced scheduled weekly calls, with grandkids even getting used to the routine, “They’ve got used to that.” 

These regular touchpoints reinforce the idea of a grandparent who is always there, even if they’re not physically present.

3. Make the most of special moments

Technology aside, showing up for important milestones is vital. 

Asking if you can be there for a school performance or sending a thoughtful letter can make a huge impact, Ian explained. 

“Even if it’s once or twice a year, you’re regular in the once or twice a year.”

Showing up, even digitally, matters more than the frequency.

In the end, grandparenting from a distance is about being present in meaningful ways, making sure your love and support are felt no matter how far apart you are. 

Embrace technology, plan your visits, and most importantly, stay committed to being there for your grandkids, even if it’s from a long way away.