Better to Be Single Than With the Wrong Person

By: Sabrina Peters

As a pastor, I’ve had the privilege of guiding countless individuals on their journey through life and love.

One common theme that often arises is the longing for a life partner and the desire to find that special someone to share their life with. In this pursuit, it’s crucial to remember the timeless wisdom that “it’s better to be single than with the wrong person.”

1 – Remember the Value of Singleness

In a world that sometimes places undue pressure on finding a partner, particularly for Christians seeking a godly marriage, it’s essential to recognise the unique value of singleness. The Apostle Paul, in his writings to the Corinthians, extolled the benefits of remaining single for those who are called to it. He spoke of the opportunity for undistracted devotion to the Lord, the freedom to serve God with an undivided heart, and the ability to fully explore one’s unique purpose in His kingdom (1 Corinthians 7:32-35).

2 – Avoid the Rush

Loneliness can be a powerful motivator, urging us to seek companionship even when it may not be in God’s timing. Rushing into a relationship out of sheer loneliness can lead to unforeseen complications and heartaches. Instead, I encourage you to pursue God in every season of your life. Let Him love you, guide you, and shape you into the person He created you to be.

It’s in these times of waiting and trust that our character develops, and our maturity deepens and we can grow in emotional and spiritual maturity.

3 – Embrace the Journey

Life is not just about finding a partner; it’s also about embracing the journey God has set before you. In your season of singleness, seize the opportunity to have fun, enjoy life, and surround yourself with quality company. Study, travel, dream, work, worship, and bear witness to God’s grace in your life. These experiences not only enrich your own spiritual and personal growth but also prepare you for a future partnership that aligns with God’s purpose for both of you.

4 – Wait for the Best

I don’t believe in the one, but I do believe in God’s best for you. A good fit and someone that aligns with your values and connects with your heart.

Ultimately, the desire for companionship is a beautiful and God-given longing. As you grow in character and maturity, trust that God is preparing someone who shares your passion for Him and aligns with your life’s direction. While it may take time, waiting for the right one for you, is worth every moment of patience. Seek a partner who is headed in the same direction, whose love for God mirrors your own, and whose presence enriches your faith journey.

So, amazing person, remember that “it’s better to be single than with the wrong person” is not a statement of despair but one of wisdom and hope. Trust in God’s timing and His plan for your life. Pursue Him wholeheartedly, grow in His grace, and when the time is right, you’ll find yourself walking alongside a fellow traveller, hand-in-hand, heading in the same direction, together.

About the Author: Sabrina is a writer, pastor and relationships blogger. She is passionate about Jesus and changing the way people think about God, relationships and sex.

Article supplied with thanks to Sabrina Peters.

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